Have you ever found yourself side stepping around the truth to try to adjust reality to what you think it’s supposed to be?
The funny thing about reality is that you can’t change it, you can only perceive it. So by changing your perception you actually aren’t changing anything.
You can use this to your advantage. For example, if you have plans to spend the day outside and it’s raining then you can choose to perceive this as good because now you have the opportunity to stay inside and do something else.
But if you don’t watch out it can become a disadvantage. You can start living in your own echo chamber and your perception of reality can become flawed.
The solution (in my opinion). Get out and talk to people about problems you’re facing. Listen to how they perceive the issue. Show empathy towards their point of view and cross reference it with yours.